I have just finished reading a fabulous little book called “The Happy Horse”. I really wish it were available as a print book rather than
the ebook which is the only format you can buy (at the moment) since there is
more than one person I know who would really benefit from reading it. Written
by Tania Kindersley up in the wilds of Scotland where she lives (and from the
sound of it, where I’d like to live!), it is partly a collection of stories,
reminiscent of Mark Rashid’s books, and partly a “how to” book.
The author, after a 30 year break from “horsing” (I love
that word!), decided to go out and buy herself a Thoroughbred mare. When she
got the mare home, rather than being able to just hop on and start riding, she
discovered that her horse was not at all happy, and demonstrated this with a
dazzling array of behaviour such as bucking, spooking and leaping about. But
rather than label the horse “dangerous” or “naughty”, her new owner set about
Googling how to make her horse happy. The results of her discoveries and her
experiences are all detailed in the book.
I found myself nodding a lot whilst reading it, and often
exclaiming (to my fairly bored family) “Exactly! More people need to realise
this!” and so on. I think that we have made many of the same discoveries about
horsing over the years. And there is some stuff in there that perhaps we
haven’t realised yet, so much food for thought and perhaps some things to try
with our horses, especially Sky, who seems to have a lot in common with the
author’s red mare…….
There are quotes like this, which I could have written
myself, and it’s something I often say to people who ask for my help.
“I am constantly amazed by how many people really do think
that they can force a half-ton flight animal to do anything. They reach for the
strong bits and the sharp spurs; they wrangle and wrestle and shout. They get
out their whip. This does not work, but people go on thinking that somehow, if
they get tough enough, it will work.”
And this, which pretty much sums up us “fluffy bunnies”:
"You may find that it is not the things you do with
your horse that are hard, so much as the way people look at you as you do these
things. If you choose not to walk with the crowd, the crowd can get a bit
shifty and restless and cross. Some of that crowd may not want to think about
herd behaviour; they would much rather get out their strong bits and their
standing martingales and their side reins........then you might have to take a
lot of deep breaths, count to ten......smile a blinding smile, and bugger on
regardless.”
Over the years we have had so much criticism from fellow
horse owners, both online and in real life. I can totally understand why some people
can end up doing what is seen as “normal,” even if they’re not convinced it’s
best for their horse, just to avoid such criticism. There are some nasty bullies
out there. There are people who have criticised this blog because of the views
I express about how to do what I feel is the best for my horses. You can’t
please everyone, or even anyone sometimes. So it is refreshing to read
something like this book and realise that there are people out there who have
taken the time, done the research, disagreed with the “experts”, tried
different things and found a method that works for them (and more importantly,
for their horses) too.
So we shall continue to bugger on regardless, continue to ignore the negative comments and continue to learn as much as we can about how to make our horses happy. If you want to do that too, get a copy of this book. Your horse will thank you for it :-)